At home date night

Relationships and dating are funny. After we’ve been in a relationship for awhile we don’t think of ourselves as “dating” any longer. We went on dates in the beginning of the relationship to get to know the person, but we don’t consider going out to dinner a date any longer once that relationship is well established. This is even more true when you have been dating for an extended amount of time and live together. Why don’t we continue to have dates with our significant others?

Having a weekly date night with your significant other has been proven to increase communication, build stronger relationships, relieve stress, and increase romance. According to the National Marriage Project date nights are also valuable for their novelty. Researchers are discovering that “couples who engage in novel activities that are fun, active or otherwise arousing – from hiking to dancing to travel to card games – enjoy higher levels of relationship quality,” the report notes. In this way, couples counteract a tendency to take each other for granted. Couples, it says, “may be particularly likely to benefit from a regular date night if they use it as an opportunity to do more than that old standby: dinner and a movie.” And couples are encouraged to choose activities that represent “a balance of each partner’s interests, rather than tending to do things (novel or not)” that reflect the same partner’s preferences each time.

There have been multiple studies done on the positive benefits of continuing to set aside time to have a date with your SO. Most of these studies suggest that having a date just once a month is the key to a long lasting relationship. How easy is that? Setting aside time 1 night out of 30 days? Going out to a nice dinner, seeing a concert or play, going to a sporting event, any of these things would make a great date.

Sometimes the best dates are the ones we have at home together. It’s less expensive, and can allow you to let down your walls a little more. Here are some easy tips for an amazing time in together.

COOK DINNER TOGETHER

There are many meal delivery services available now. From Blue Apron, Hello Fresh, Purple Carrot, and Terra’s Kitchen. Using a meal delivery service will take away the planning and allow you to just enjoy cooking your meal together. Put on some music, grab a drink and enjoy time together.

There are also so many websites with amazing recipes on them. Some of our favorites we use are Half Baked Harvest, Whats Gaby Cooking, Bon Appetit, Food52, and Smitten Kitchen.

Heres some recipes from each site

Half Baked Harvest- Sun Dried Tomato and Ricotta Turkey Meatballs
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Whats Gaby Cooking- Curry Coconut Noodle Soup
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Bon Appetit- Instant Pot Coq au Vin
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Food52- Classic Queso Blanco
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Smitten Kitchen- Corn chowder with Chile, lime, and cotija
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MAKE A SPECIALTY DRINK

Buy a nice bottle of wine, or make yourselves a drink. It can end up being “your” drink. Phil’s go to drink is an old fashion. I can drink 1 of those in about 2 hours. Lately, I have become really into Gin drinks. As our friend Evan put it the other day “Gin is a shitty alcohol on it’s own, but it’s a great alcohol for mixing.” I also really like vodka, whiskey, and tequila mixed drinks. Here are some great recipes for drinks at home instead of at the bar.

Sparking Grapefruit Cocktail
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INGREDIENTS

  • 1 large ruby red or pink grapefruit
  • ¼ cup sugar
  • 2 ounces gin (preferably Hendricks)
  • ½ ounce fresh lemon juice
  • 1 sprig tarragon
  • 2 ounces French sparkling wine (such as Crémant de Bourgogne)
  • Ruby red or pink grapefruit wedge (for serving)

Old Fashion
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INGREDIENTS

  • 1 teaspoon raw or granulated sugar
  • 3 dashes bitters
  • 2 ounces rye whiskey
  • Orange wedge (for serving)
  • Maraschino cherry (for serving; optional)

Sparkling Tarragon Gin Lemonade
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INGREDIENTS

  • 10 large sprigs tarragon
  • 2 lemons, thinly sliced
  • 2 tablespoons sugar
  • 3/4 cup gin
  • 3/4 cup St-Germain (elderflower liqueur)
  • 1/3 cup fresh lemon juice
  • 1 12-ounce can club soda

Picante Pigeon
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INGREDIENTS

  • 1–2 jalapeño slices
  • 2 teaspoons sugar
  • 2 ounces tequila reposado
  • 2 ounces fresh pink grapefruit juice
  • 1 ounce fresh lime juice
  • Grapefruit slice (for serving)

Blueberry Smash
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INGREDIENTS

  • 2 lemons, sliced into rounds
  • 2 limes, sliced into rounds
  • 1 cup fresh blueberries
  • 1/2 cup (loosely packed) fresh mint leaves plus sprigs for garnish
  • 1 1/2 cups vodka
  • 3/4 cup St-Germain (elderflower liqueur)

 

PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY

Time magazine did a study on the use of your phone while out to dinner. They study asked “Is having your phone at dinner having an impact on people’s social interactions, or how much they’re enjoying the time they’re spending with other people?” They found that it did make a difference. By putting your phone away you are more engaged in conversation with the person you are with, this leads to better communication for you as a couple. This can allow you to be present in the moment and have a much better time together. I will probably be the first person to break this rule, only because I google every question that pops into my head. Im a google addict. I say every question that comes to my head, and after 4 years of Phil fielding these questions, I have now turned to google to give Phil a break. It’s like constant jeopardy for him. If you’re going to ask questions, ask questions about each other, learn something new about each other.

PLAY A GAME

Instead of binge watching tv or a movie, try doing something where you interact more and keeps conversation going. Phil and I have started playing games or starting puzzles. Now we have quite the collection. Here are some more grown up games that we own and To Love, Honor, and Vacuum explained well.

Ticket to Ride
Your task is to build a railway connecting two cities. The hardest part? Choosing which routes to keep, and which to turn in. And then getting yours done before your spouse gets his completed! The original Ticket to Ride is North American based, but the expansions are for Europe, India, and Africa. Again, a game that can be played with many more players, but still works with just two. This is another of our big party games for when we have other people over
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Carcassonne
It takes about half an hour. Basically you each select a tile on each turn that you place, creating a medieval city with roads and monasteries and farms. It’s hard to explain on a blog, but easy once you see it. I like it when we have people over because it doesn’t take long to explain. And because you create the terrain each time you play, it’s different every time, too! It also has lots of expansions you can buy to turn it into a different, and more complicated, game if you want. One of my favorite party games, can be played with up to 6 people, but works fine with 2.
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Pandemic
A pandemic has broken out–and it’s your job to prevent it from spreading! This is a really engrossing, challenging game for couples who want something to sink their teeth into. You can play with 2-4 players, and each of you plays one specialist who can help defeat the disease. You have to find the four possible cures before the game is over
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Then there are always the originals you can jump right into like Yahtzee, Rummikub, and Scrabble.

GET DRESSED UP

Date night is  the perfect chance to provide a welcome excuse to get dressed up and to remind our other-halves that we can scrub up well when we really set our minds to it. Get dressed up even if you aren’t going out.

PLAN SOMETHING FOR THE BEDROOM

I promise you with any at home date night it will rekindle romance so why not go out with a bang (literally). Set the scene with candles (enclosed so you don’t burn down your house), be spontaneous, play a game, kiss often during your date, get handsy during your date, wear something that makes you feel sexy, there are a million ways to turn up the heat. Romance and intimacy will always bring your relationship closer.

Continue to fall in love with your SO, keep the spark alive. There is nothing worse then falling into a routine and forgetting why you fell in love in the first place. If you google date night ideas there are thousands of links. here are a couple to make it easier.

www.happywivesclub.com/top-20-stay-at-home-datee-night-ideas/

www.sixsistersstuff.com/32-stay-at-home-date-ideas-plus-links/

https://www.artofmanliness.com/2016/02/10/18-at-home-date-ideas/

https://www.fulfillingyourvows.com/21-romantic-stay-at-home-date-night-ideas/

 

Xo
Cat

 

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One thought on “At home date night

  1. Cat! I love your blog 💛 It’s a nice substitute to getting your bits of wisdom since you’re not in MQT anymore.
    Also yay thanks for posting all those great 2 person games !!!!
    I’m glad to have a new blog to visit

    Like

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